How to Write Daily Affirmations That Will Change Your Life
I am a huge fan of daily affirmations. I started this practice after having my second son and going through a horrible time with postpartum depression. However, I will admit that I didn’t think they were very effective at that time. I felt that reading books helped my mindset more than daily affirmations. Recently, though I started working on writing positive daily affirmations again and I can definitely see a change in my mindset. For me, I think the change came when I started to write out my affirmations and what I am grateful for. The 2 together have been super helpful in starting each day with a positive mindset.
What you will learn in this post:
- What is a positive affirmation
- Why do affirmations work
- How do you effectively use affirmations
- How do you know if they are working
What is a positive affirmation
By definition, an affirmation is a declaration of something true. It is emotional support or encouragement. A statement of truth in which you want to absorb. I love this definition because it explains it so well.
Positive affirmations are something you say over and over so you start believing them. The purpose is to change a negative way of thinking.
For example, if you have ever tried to lose weight before you may understand this dialogue.
“I am killing it! I have gotten up every day this week and exercised, I have eaten well and I am down 5 pounds!” Then the weekend rolls around and Monday morning comes…
Stepping on the scale “I gained 3 pounds back!!!! I am so stupid and fat! I ate like crap this weekend and now I have to start all over!!! I’m never going to get to my goal of losing 20 pounds.“
Does this sound familiar?
You feel like you make a breakthrough, but when things start going in the opposite direction, you put yourself down.
Positive affirmations help you to retrain your brain to thoughts of “I made a mistake, but I am not the mistake.” They are ways to retrain your brain so you don’t become the mistake or feel like a failure.
I do morning affirmations every single day now along with gratefulness and the difference has been incredible. I used to hate exercise, but after doing my morning ritual with daily affirmations, I can see how important exercise is to my mental health. On the days I exercise, I feel so much better about myself, what I eat improves, and my mental clarity is amazing. I remember this feeling before I go to bed because it helps me get up the next day to exercise. I am more appreciative of my body and can see how exercise helps me physically and emotionally.
Why Do Affirmations Work?
Affirmations help to reprogram your brain and overcome the negative limiting beliefs you have so that you can become the person you want to become. If you get up every single morning and repeat your daily affirmations, you eventually start believing them. You believe that you are capable of achieving your goals, you are more positive, you set your intention for the day and above all else, you just feel better about yourself For me, I also notice that when I make a mistake, I can return to the affirmations and repeat them and the negative thoughts don’t seem as bad.
It’s almost like I feel free. I’m free of the thoughts that would sabotage my day. I’m free of the limiting beliefs that once held me back from achieving big things.
One of my big limiting beliefs was that I’m not smart enough to do big things. I was very nervous to join the board of a nonprofit because I felt like I didn’t have enough to offer. I was afraid that the other members of the board would think that I am stupid or not worthy to be on the board. No joke.
After reading The Big Leap, I realized that the idea of joining a governing board was past what Gay Hendricks calls my upper limit and if I didn’t challenge myself I would always remain small.
Fast forward 2 months and I feel like I am worthy of being on the board and I personally think I am a happier person for pushing through that “upper limit” and pushing past my fear and thoughts of shame.
If I had to guess, I bet there is something similar that you feel that holds you back. Maybe it is negative thoughts or shame or fear. I can tell you that once you can get past all of that negative crap, you will feel free.
How do you effectively use affirmations
If you have never done affirmations before, it may seem a little weird and I get it. At first, I was like “So you mean to tell me I have to tell myself how awesome I am….” yeah. that sounds a little odd….”
But, they do work if they are done right.
If you haven’t done them before, you can print out a list of affirmations that I use to help get you started. I will email these to you and if you don’t want to be on my email list long term, no worries. You can unsubscribe after you get the freebie. There is a button at the bottom of the email to unsubscribe. I care more about you getting the freebie so download it if this is new to you.
In order for affirmations to work, I do recommend that you use them first thing in the morning. I also recommend that you get up 20-30 minutes earlier because you want to start your day out right and in the right mindset.
Next, grab a cup of coffee or tea and your journal or planner and start writing out affirmations.
I am courageous and bold and I rise to the challenge of change.
I am confident and smart and can achieve any goal I set my mind to.
I am loved and adored by God.
I am healthy and vibrant and I treat my body exceptionally well.
I am kind and patient and I listen to others.
You can also state your dreams here as if they have already happened. Rachel Hollis uses this practice and she feels it has helped her achieve her big goals. So for example, if your goal is to become debt free, you would write:
I am debt free and I reap the benefits of the financial growth I have accomplished.
You write it in the past tense because it gets you more excited about the goal. I am trying this out and I write it under my affirmations section in my planner as well.
In order to feel the affirmations work, you need to repeat them multiple times and when you think a negative thought, you immediately let it pass and then follow it with a positive affirmation. You have a choice as to whether you believe the negative thought or not. This is how you control your thinking. The negative thought does not have to define you or take over your day. You can simply let it pass, and believe the positive thing you are telling yourself.
It may sound completely weird, but I am telling you that it is possible to control your thoughts. Every book I have read about affirmations has the same theme behind it. The affirmations are a way to break the negative limiting beliefs and help you achieve your goals because those beliefs no longer control you.
This will feel a bit daunting at first and you may not believe me right away, but keep at it. If you are having a day filled with negative thoughts, try going to a quiet place and meditating or praying for 5 minutes and saying the affirmations to yourself again. That has helped me a ton the last several months.
You will continue to experience negative or fearful thoughts, but the goal is to not let those thoughts control you. You can control them and move past them to achieve your goals. That is what we are working towards!
How do you know if they are working
This is the fun part. You know if the positive affirmations are working when you realize you are having a negative thought but that thought doesn’t control you. If you say to yourself something like “I’m so stupid or I’m never going to be the person I want to be” you notice that thought and then you think about positive things to overcome it. You think about something you learned or something you did that day that gets you closer to the goal you are trying to achieve.
For example, the other day, I was talking to Greg and some of the big goals I want to achieve. We actually became realtors and we met with our broker this past week. She wanted to learn more about what I am doing with my blog to see if it could potentially be used in real estate. To be honest, I left the meeting feeling deflated because she is absolutely amazing and I would love to have half the success that she does. I left the meeting feeling deflated because she is successful and I compared myself to her which is a recipe for disaster. I started to feel unworthy again
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